Rare, one of a kind, one in a million, outstanding, incredible, a true friend…because apparently that’s what I have become, not like I am complaining but they are only names given to me by guys who have decided I am only good enough as a friend…yes my people, I have been friend zoned more than once in my lifetime.
I find it funny when guys claim women can never be friend zoned when in reality they say they are searching for a good girl while they have a ton of ‘amazing’ women around them that they have put aside as ‘too good for them’. My question is what the hell are you looking for? And why do you walk pass a good thing that’s staring you right in your face?
In the last few months, I have gotten the ‘thank you for being a good friend’ speech, ‘I have strong feelings for you’, ‘you are an amazing woman’ but somehow I am still single and the one that all these single young men come running to when they need emotional support. There’s something I am obviously doing wrong here and I need to find it and stop. 
My friends claim I am too nice, too entertaining and too tolerant, that men have a problem with women that are perfect and need a bit of drama in their lives. I am in no way saying I am perfect but is a sister supposed to be mean for the hell of it, like get upset for no reason, curse and cause an uproar just so she’s seen as dramatic enough for a relationship.
Others claim I am too smart, opinionated, too intelligent, and men don’t want a woman that knows more than they do so they would rather such a woman as a friend for intelligent conversation but nothing more. So what’s a girl supposed to do? Act dumb? Pretend not to know how many countries there are in Africa or that she doesn’t know how to use Google to join a conversation when she is absolutely clueless.
Honestly it is a bit difficult to understand why all the amazing women are single and the not so amazing ones are snagging up the men. This dating world is confusing i tell you but while we’re at it, you might as well put your best flaw forward…

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  1. Okkk.. for some funny reason, this post got my attention. You see, Miss Gidi.. there is an unearthly craze in Nigeria to get married just for the sake of getting married. People marry people nowadays, cos he/she has a good job, so financially, they will be secure; cos he/she is handsome/pretty , so they can have cute kids, cos the sex was good… most people don’t marry anymore, cos they love the person and cannot imagine their lives without them.. and honestly, call me old fashioned, but love and friendship are my biggest motivations.
    Now.. i can tell you for free that not everyone that is married is happy. I know a lot of people with side chicks and side dudes.
    So i will suggest you honestly stay true to yourself, and also prioritize your preferences in order of what’s important to you. if you value Money in place of love and respect, by all means go after it.. otherwise, just be patient.. Love will come to you, probably in the unlikeliest of places! 🙂


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