Are we outnumbered?

On Monday, there was news all over the web about the experience of Miss Kemi Adetiba, a popular music video director, on her experience in a certain restaurant called Spice Route, located in the ever bubbling Victoria Island. The story is that Kemi was not allowed to go in without a male ‘escort’ because she happens to be single and in the eyes of management could also be a ‘prostitute’. Eventually she went in and like most millennials she turned to social media to rant about her disgust on the unfair treatment she got at this restaurant.

When I read about her story, a part of me was upset and somewhat irritated because it implied that every single woman in Lagos (including yours truly) could be mistaken for a runs chic (a.k.a escort, prostitute, cheap hoe e.t.c). I have been to Spice Route a few times but never had to experience this unfair treatment, well maybe because 2 of those times were for early dinners and the third was for an overpriced event but I have heard of lots of places (especially restaurants in hotels) in Lagos that do not allow single women to come in after a certain time for fear that they would be entertaining women of ‘easy virtue’.

On the other hand, I tried to imagine what I would do if I owned a restaurant in Lagos. To be honest, the number of ‘runs chics’ has increased exponentially, I mean who can tell these days? We all wear the same clothes, same weave and in some cases live in the same neighbourhoods. The only difference is that some of these runs chics are ‘free spirited and occasionally hang out at odd times, I say some because others are masked under ‘proper jobs’.

If you are a novice in Lagos, you probably wouldn’t notice this but those of us who live here can tell a mile away when a runs chic is in the area. So what’s a restaurant owner supposed to do to avoid having these kind of women coming into their restaurant and not lose their reputation as a classy spot in Lagos? Please do not get me wrong, I am in no way trying to justify the actions of the management of Spice Route or supporting gender discrimination but instead of knocking them down for their failed attempt maybe a coalition of decent single women living in Lagos can offer them a logical solution.

I remember when a friend called me ranting about her first encounter with a nosy neighbour, my friend had just moved into the penthouse of their building and was taking out time to know her neighbours (a very oyibo thing to do by the way). Anyway, Madam Nosy not caring about where my friend worked or what she did for a living, simply asked ‘Who is the man that paid for this place?‘, a subtle way of saying ‘Who is your sugar daddy?’ .

Of course we both laughed at her experience but with restaurants banning the entry of single women after a certain time, one can only wonder if the ‘decent’ single ladies who do not have to offer their bodies for any source of income are being outnumbered by runs chics.

This is actually disturbing or maybe we all just need to invest in false rings when we want to hang out after a certain time…I don’t know really, what do you think?

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8 thoughts on “Are we outnumbered?

  1. This is really sad. It’s absolutely unnecessary. And a person should be able to walk into a place and eat in peace regardless of the state of their fourth finger. So the runs girl can go in if she has a male escort? I still can’t wrap my head around this mess. Haba mana.

    Besides, there are runs girls because some people pay for their services. So those men can walk into spice and get a 5 star treatment? Something has to be done.

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  2. I don’t know. What’s a classy restaurant? There’s no way to distinguish between commercial revenue seekers and responsible ladies. (Sad to think dressing has gone so downhill)

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  3. Guess what, I’m also sick and tired of going to “classy” restaurants alone or with my girls and having married men “toast” or yet still proposition me. How about I ask management to stop any married man who comes without a woman/wife from entering.
    Do you see the flaw in your reasoning?
    Dare I say it but it still boils down to gender inequality. There, I said it!

    You probably wouldn’t understand it till you’ve been in those shoes. I have. I’m financially independent and at times I just like to ride solo, be it to the movies, a restaurant, a lounge… So I’ve gone for drinks or dinner at certain places, I’ve never been stopped from entering but then it takes forever to get attended to. You’re a woman so it’s automatically assumed that you came to get a “customer”. Eventually you get tired of waiting for a waiter/waitress to approach you as they have done to others and you approach them, then you get subjected to very shabby treatment. The sort of you never get if you’d come with a guy. Complete rubbish.

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    1. I occasionally take myself out on dates and trust me I know exactly what you mean when you say you are subconsciously tagged as a ‘seller’. Obviously our people have double standards because on some nights at picolomondo you find gigolos offering women a nice time…. But for the purpose of this post, I want to step away from the obvious and play devil’s advocate here ..what would you do if you owned a restaurant and this was your issue?

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  4. Bottles is the worst when it comes to discriminating. These establishments are blind it seems, why would anyone in their right mind think a woman wearing work clothes be a runz babe? I’ve been in Lagos for about 6 years and it didn’t take me more than a day to spot the difference. It is insulting to lump every African female as a runz babe. The bouncers and hotel/restaurant managers are idiots that like to just rubbish women any how. They single out only African women, never caucasians or asians, note that. As oyinbo does not have ashewo in Nigeria too. I went to Bottles from a wedding wearing proper naija outfit but left the gele in my car, and some idiot wanted to pull the same stunt on me. Are they mad?! They have no excuse jare. The people posted at the doors can tell the difference, they are simply douche-baggy a**h****. Awon marrasucker that have no home training. Plain and simple. mscheeeewww.

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  5. Frankly everyone is to blame. Our society has become one of all things are attainable by the hook or the crook. Some salaried young women are desperate to flaunt on instagram, many men realize you don’t have to look like a prostitute to actually be selling that “poon tang”. How many times have we as women seen some of our peers all of a sudden skyrocket to high end material status without any verifiable means. I am not judging anyone, but we are all collectively responsible for the treatment we get.
    The best approach in lagos is to simply patronize the establishments you feel secure in, and ignore those you don’t. or simply familiarize yourself with the door personnel. That said, you are still going there to spend money, so unless you are desperately in need of where to spend your money, i say control where it goes.
    And until then, I do fear that we will all continue to be painted with a certain brush.
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  6. We are indeed outnumbered as i have come to realise in lagos , there are runs girls at different classes and price points. However, why should a single lady like myself be discriminated against?. Do i have to be accompanied by a man before i get into a bar?

    I don’t know what they should do about the escorts but it definitely isn’t barring single female customers.

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