SINGLE AGAIN

Where do I even begin?

Yes, Mz Gidi is single again and this is one of the toughest posts to write because I have struggled with coming to terms with my new reality. When I started the blog, I wanted an avenue to express myself on being single; the ups and downs but mostly the funny experiences which would lead to my happily ever after forever. Then I got married and it became slightly difficult to write, not because I forgot what it was like to be single but because I was going through so much in the marriage that it was impossible to write.

In the last year, I have met followers of the blog asking why I stopped writing and when I would return. But there’s no way I can write again without starting from here

So what happened you ask?

As humans we sometimes make mistakes and it is up to us to decide if we want to continue to live that lie or we can pick ourselves up and rechart our course. In this society of ours where being married is seen as a trophy, it’s certainly difficult to come to that decision that things aren’t working. I find that a lot of people are in unhappy/dead marriages (both male and female) but choose to stay for the sake of society. We have been taught to romanticize long-suffering because one day everything will change and you will be that Instagram perfect couple offering advice to younger ones on how everything turned around while encouraging the vicious cycle of not holding anyone accountable for their bad behaviour or actions.

How do I feel?

I feel renewed because I can sit back and look at the mistakes I made before marriage, in marriage and now. As usual, I am not here to advise you, I am here to walk you through my experience of love, disappointment, betrayal and maybe finding love again. One thing I can tell you for sure is that marriage is not the ultimate goal, happiness is and there are a lot more issues to be considered before getting married.

I don’t ask why me anymore because I understand that I had to go through it so I could relate with the demographic often misrepresented

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So where do we begin?

Well from the top, back to the drawing board, this time with a daughter, learning to be single and strong like Imoteda and seeing the dating world with different eyes.

I will do my best, to be honest with you but most of all with myself.

Welcome to my journey of being SINGLE AGAIN in Gidi

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14 replies

  1. Welcome back!!! We are here to walk on this journey with you and also listen to life stories and hopefully learn from your experience. I’m personally looking forward to your posts MzGidi, you’ve got this!!

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  2. You know i’ve been a fan from day one.Happy you are writing again.Wishing you all the best and lots of happy memories with your munchkin.

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