Most dating advice promises to lead us to lasting love, but erodes our chance of ever finding it; I find that many of these dos and don’ts do more harm than good. It relentlessly focuses on one thing — your attractiveness, your ability to tease a man’s ego and your ability to control a man’s … More MONYHONY & IMAROSE: THE OIL AND WATER OF ATTRACTION
Last week I was cracking my head thinking of what to write for this week when Rob Kardashian blessed the world with good material. This story could offhandedly generate more stories for bloggers than the “twitter President” Donald Trump does on a daily basis. And so it began Where do I even start from? So … More LOVE, ABUSE AND REVENGE PORN?
The older I get, the more I understand what it means to say “love is not enough”. Recently Mr. C has been having stupidity remorse and trying to talk about why we didn’t work out and if there was a possibility of reconciliation. I keep telling him I am in love and happy and the … More HOW DO YOU FIGHT?
Dear Single women in Lagos, what is with the scarcity mentality? What is it with women these days acting like men are running out of fashion, so they fight each other and do desperate things just to get and keep a man. I find this interesting because, men don’t do this and from experience, I … More THE LOGIC OF WANTING WHO DOESN’T WANT YOU
Remember the friendship that being with a Yoruba demon brought my way? the girl who reached out to me about dating a man who had been dating her and we became really good friends? Well, the friendship is still going and somehow even though she is like 5 years older than I am, she comes … More HE WON’T COMMIT BUT WON’T LET YOU GO
As women, no matter how enlightened we’ve become in our approach to dating, an outdated set of rules that took root in earlier generations which still exists in our heads today. The saddest and most ironic part about these rules is that they were created by women on how to date men. A while ago, a … More KEEPING A ‘HIGH-QUALITY’ MAN
Bae hunting in Lagos has become very fluid these days oh. So a day into the new year, that’s the 2nd January, I was running on Osborne as usual and this beautiful lady in say mid-40’s gives me a friendly smile, I smile back and said good morning. On the second lapse of my run, … More FLUIDITY & ENTITLEMENT OF LAGOS DATING
Ladies, when a man breaks up with you, most of the time, he expects you to cry and beg with constant calls and texts, but doesn’t enjoy it. Have you ever considered what would happen if you only composed yourself better and tell him off? Completely starving him of any attention for at least three … More THE NO CONTACT RULE
A friend and I were having this heated debate in the salon about Toke Makinwa’s “On Becoming” only God knows what she became sha. But the one thing Toke wasn’t is deceived. At first women there wanted to call me a hater for saying Toke deserves no sympathy as empathy I give to her is … More MR OCTOBER GOT MARRIED
I am tired of apologizing for my writing inconsistency, but my people, pardon, mbok! You won’t understand if I tried to explain why in the most logical way, but hey, I’m back again! It’s that time of the year again when everyone is getting married and boo-ed up and single women are getting paranoid about … More THINGS SINGLE WOMEN ARE TIRED OF HEARING