Hide your boyfriends, Hide your girlfriends, the IJGBs are in town!!!!

It’s that time of the year again…

That time when Lagos is heavily saturated with accents from far and wide, that time when there are more complaints on social media about the weather,  the traffic and most of all, that time when true Lagosians (those who live and work in Lagos) are almost paranoid about losing their loved ones to these foreigners.

Welcome to the ‘I just got back?’ season

Everyone who lives in Lagos knows that the month of December is not just about Christmas and family, incase you have been living under a rock, the month of December is also regarded as the highest hookup season in Nigeria especially Lagos.

Most singletons roam the city with the hope that ‘this year’ would not pass them by after all. And who can blame them? with the number of ‘testimonies’ shared on popular blogs, almost every single lady is on the mission to bag that ‘correct’ guy before the year runs out.

Salons are congested with ladies trying to look their best and malls become strips to showcase your God-given or human enhanced beauty, whatever the case, this is the season where single ladies do not dull because we live by the motto ‘you never know who is watching’

Guys are not left out of this, they are often occupied with thoughts on how to look better and by better, I mean how to look ‘richer’ because they are under the impression that ‘foreign’ babes only like men with money and class. So they borrow money and  luxury cars just to ‘please’ these ladies until the season is over and then they can  go back to keke napeps and one square meals.

For some in relationships though, this is the time when they begin to question the ‘seriousness’ of their relationships because young men get missing at the sound of  foreign accents and young ladies denounce all relationships like a plague at the sight of ‘hard’ currencies and buff bodies (there has to be a reason why all these ‘returnees’ seem buff anyway)

Don’t get me wrong though, it’s not that we do not love to see our IJGB family & friends but the Lagos obsession and fascination of ‘bagging’ a foreigner especially in December is what amazes me and one I may never understand.

On that note, the SIG would like to wish you and yours a fabulous Christmas and as they say you never know sha so keep your eyes open, your future husband/wife may be around the corner (maybe with a foreign accent LOL)

 

Much love,

 

P.S – If you have to ‘question’ your relationship because of a few weeks of distraction then maybe it’s not meant to be #justsaying #missgidishrug

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We’ve got mail: Is Lagos for me?

A special shoutout to everyone that reads from the ‘diaspora’…most times I am amazed when I check the stats and notice visits from places such as Kenya, Uganda, Malaysia and Italy… you guys absolutely rock! Anyway, today’s mail is from a reader in the diaspora who needs our input, so here goes:

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dear miss gidi

Hi Miss Gidi,

I’ve been up for a few hours reading your posts and I absolutely love you! I’ve never lived in Lagos but reading your posts makes me feel like I can trust you to always say the truth of what is going on in Lagos.

I am writing because I need your advise and maybe those of the readers who live in Lagos about my current situation. I got introduced to my current boyfriend a few months ago by a mutual friend and after 2 weeks of getting to know him, he asked me to be his girlfriend. It’s been 4 months now and even though most people think he is only interested in me because of my passport, I like to believe otherwise. This is the first time I’m dating a Nigerian who lives in Nigeria because I was born here and have lived here all my life.

Recently he started complaining about the distance in our relationship and has asked me to relocate to Nigeria so we can be close to each other. He has his own business in Lagos so him moving to America is not an option and he has promised to help me get a job in Lagos once I agree to move down. I’ve never been to Lagos and most of my friends who have moved back to Nigeria are in Abuja so if I moved down, I would be on my own and dependent on him which makes me a bit uncomfortable.

As someone who lives in Lagos, I would like to know what you think. It seems like you have lived outside Nigeria before even though it’s not clear from your posts so maybe you can compare both worlds for me and how you were able to adjust.  My family thinks it’s a crazy idea and disagree with my relocating because we have no family in Lagos but I have been giving it a lot of thought and I want to make this relationship work.

Please help me out

Tee

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Hey Tee,

Thank you for stopping by the blog and I really appreciate the trust you have in lil ol’ me, I try to be as unbiased as possible even though it’s very easy to only talk about the good things in Lagos.

It’s common knowledge that long distance relationships are not easy at all, so kudos to you for giving it a try. However, moving to Lagos is a tough decision, there is a lot of difference from what is projected in the media (fancy blogs included) and the reality we face here. Besides the usual poor power supply, bad roads e.t.c, you also have to worry about the cultural differences, expensive living, occasional angry drivers and many more.

It seems like you really care about this guy so I would recommend you visit  for about 3 months and have a feel of what it’s like living here. If you are a bit more adventurous then you could consider doing NYSC for a year, that way you will make friends, you won’t be completely dependent on him and most of all you get to experience the real Lagos while figure out if you can live here or not.

I know it doesn’t seem like I gave you enough options but that’s the best I can come up with. I grew up here, was only away for a few years for my university education and I came home every holiday so moving back was a smooth transition for me. I am sure there are a few people who may have been in your shoes and would be in a better position to give their opinion so I will put it out there  and hopefully you find the answers you need.

At the end of the day, please remember these are just opinions and the final decision is yours and yours alone.

Regards,

Miss Gidi

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I must confess this is a tough one for me so what do you guys think Tee should do?

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