oh mingle bells, mingle bells, mingle all the waayyyy
Okay let me stop
On Thursday, Zoe Chinaka of Nigeria Info invited me to join a panel of ladies as we discussed how to mingle this holiday. The other ladies on the panel were, TG of Protouch Consulting and Mrs Tolu Akintoye, a relationship counselor. I must say it was fun having to share notes and thoughts with the ladies on air.
As we are in December, we all know that LasGidi is going to be busy with a lot of events and of course our family and friends will be coming in from far and wide to celebrate the holidays.
December is also known as the time that a lot of singles get to mingle, and maybe meet potential ‘partners’ or just make new friends. Whatever the case, there will be a lot of activity and the ladies and I were able to come up with a few good tips on how to mingle as a single lady this holiday.
- Be you: this is not the time to acquire a foreign accent that you do not have. However, being you does not mean to be rowdy.
- Observance is key: Pay attention to the environment you find yourself. Don’t go and start shouting or yelling at a cocktail event. #justsaying
- Smile and be nice: I don’t know why Naija women like to frown and be rude. Try to be nice, be attentive and have a conversation; you don’t have to be rude to someone you are not interested in. Simple courtesy goes a long way because you never know who knows who
- Drop you phone: this is a personal pet peeve of mine, I cannot understand why any young lady would get dressed, put on makeup and wear heels, only to go use her phone through out the event chatting with friends and posting things on social media. How do you expect to be approachable when you’re focused on your phone the whole time
- Be open-minded: Be open to making new friends, be open to going to a variety of events. I mean, there are so many events happening in Lagos this season so don’t be afraid to try new things.
And that’s it, 5 mingle tips for the singles in Gidi this holiday. Do you think we missed something? Leave a comment below and tell us how you mingle?
On that note, don’t forget another chance to mingle this holiday, #SINGLEINGIDI will still be on stage for today only at TerraKulture, Victoria Island for 3pm (N3,000) and the command performance at 6pm (N5,000). Yesterday was fun, you don’t want to miss it today
We all know that meeting new people as a single professional in Lagos can be challenging. This is because you hardly find the time and when you do get that time, you can’t seem to find that event with the ‘right people’, right being people like you.
Many people who have tried internet dating or meeting people through social media have gotten very disappointed! That is why events like ProConnect are the best way to meet someone new face-to-face and have fun doing it!
For the record, ProConnect is not a speed dating event, we have one too many of those in Lagos already. What we aim to achieve with ProConnect, is to bring upwardly mobile professionals looking to make new friends either for professional reasons or for social reasons. The point is, you get to have fun over good conversation, good music, good art and in the company of good people.
But this post is not entirely about ProConnect, this is about good behavior at a networking event or a party. I have been to quite a few events in Lagos and some of the recurring events include ladies being stuck to their phones and guys ending up talking to themselves.
I am not sure if this is because of the social media era but it’s about time we go back to the good old days of mingling etiquette:
- Smile – Dear Ladies, ‘boning face’ or acting like something stinks is not the best way to attract people to you. This is the same for guys, a little smile before a hello goes a long way.
- Compliment – Whether it be someone of the opposite sex or not, a nice compliment always makes someone’s day so why don’t you be the one to bring a smile to his/her face
- Offer to get a drink – Yes guys! you should be a gentleman and offer the lady a drink. Ladies, this is 2015, so you are not exempt, feel free to offer that young man a drink, it’s not a marriage proposal….and oh we gat chu at ProConnect (unlimited non-alcoholic beverage is included in the bill)
- Make the best of it – Whether you are looking for love or not, enjoy the night by having good conversation…and as much as possible, stay away from social media
- Stop thinking about Mr or Mrs Right – The whole point of coming out is to meet new people, expand your network and ‘maybe’ find love. Walking around with a Mr or Mrs Right checklist is the easiest way to turn anyone off.
If you do click with a “special someone” at the event, do follow-up with a phone call or an email and would like to see them again! Not all people are mind-readers and stop with the forming abeg.
On that note, have you registered for ProConnect yet? Spaces are going o, don’t say I didn’t tell you